About Dr. Lexi

A Message From Dr. Lexi

Unfortunately, many couples put off seeking counseling until there’s a crisis or the wounds are so deep. So often, couples don’t even know what they’re fighting about or for. Instead, they are just reacting — finding themselves in a never-ending conflict cycle.

Dr. Sue Johnson, a primary founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), refers to this conflict cycle as “the dance.” Often one person pursues, hoping that this time they will reach their partner and communicate their pain, while the other retreats, feeling hopeless and helpless — maybe even wondering if they should give up.

Helping couples slow down and discover what they’re truly feeling underneath the anger, frustration, and even tears can support each person to finally open up, communicate, and be heard. Frequently, the miscommunications and conflicts leave both people feeling unloved and unimportant — that is the true pain.

In therapy, my goal is to help each of you communicate what you are actually feeling while developing empathy for your partner. Validation does not mean you agree — it means you understand and can accept what they are feeling and why. Together, we work to find the connection that brought you together, remember why you matter to each other, and learn to short-circuit conflicts so you can be close once again.

Common Reasons Couples Seek Counseling

• Communication difficulties
• Frequent arguments or conflict
• Emotional disconnection
• Trust and betrayal issues
• Infidelity recovery
• Parenting disagreements
• Blended family challenges
• Life transitions and stress
• Intimacy concerns
• Premarital counseling
• Empty nest adjustments
• Career and financial stressors
• Grief, illness, or caregiving challenges